Dr. Sandi Sain

Happy New Year!

When two givers indulge in a connection, it’s like magic. It’s alchemy. I water you, you water me, we never drain each other, we just grow.

''Let go of people who aren't ready to love you yet. This is the hardest thing you'll have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop... giving your love to those who aren't ready to love or appreciate you yet. Stop conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop showing up for, and showing care for people who are indifferent to your presence; who display temperamental emotions; who show disrespect or block you out and keep you at bay, despite your best efforts. Those people have narrow perspectives and small hearts. I know your instincts attempt everything to win the good mercy of those around you, but it's also this impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health. When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity. That doesn't mean that you have to change who you are; or play yourself down to suit the judgements projected onto you by those who do not care . It just means you have to stop bothering with people who don't want to love you yet. When you are excluded, subtly offended, forgotten or easily ignored by people you give time to, you don't do yourself any favour by allowing them your energy and your life. The truth is that you're not for everyone... And that not everyone is for you... That makes this world so special is, when you find the few people you have friendship, love or a true relationship with - you will know how valuable that is. Because you have experienced what isn't... There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they stand. And many will love and care for you unconditionally. But the smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as background option, the more time you stay out of the community you deserve and which deserves you. If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted... If you stop trying, the relationship might stop... If you stop texting, your phone may stay quiet because there will be no initiating from those you try to maintain closeness with. Maybe if you stop showing love towards someone, the connection between you may dissolve... That doesn't mean you ruined a relationship.. That means that all that this relationship had was the energy that ‘only you’ hire - to keep it in the air. That is wanting to give a chance to those who don't want it...or who don’t value it, due to their own hidden agendas or disconnection from their core compassion. The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy. Its not just your time because it's limited...It's your energy. What you give every day is what will become more and more in your life. It's the ones you give time and energy (who respond to you in like fashion) that will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you are become impatient when you spend your time with people who don't suit you, and in activities, places, situations which don't suit you. You're starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, is to protect your energy stronger than anything. Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only '' compatible '' people with you are allowed. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after moment. Decide you deserve a true friendship. Wait then... just a minute...and look how everything is starting to change..." Anthony Hopkins

Thanks to Cheryl Jackson.

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You can't force someone to get off the fence if they're not sure they want a future with you. Here a few things to keep in mind if you're tired of waiting for someone to commit.

Ways to Respond when a Sexual Abuse Survivor Confides in You. When I first started working with survivors of sexual abuse, I struggled with the vivid images my mind created when listening to their stories. I remember having difficulty staying present, not to mention being triggered, with client after client and story after story. Many of my friends would wonder how I did itmeaning how I could sit and hold space for clients with this kind of trauma each day without getting to...Continue reading

Lead with Love for Love is all there is

Dr. Sandi is offering phone and telemedicine calls to couple who’s relationship is indistress during Covid-19 or dealing with infidelity, Contact me at [email protected] call 12-9p 678-886-7887 Much Love to All Dr. Sandi

Last night I spoke about anxiety and non-attachment. I have noticed that people often misunderstand non-attachment as disassociating or not caring. It is not th...is at all. I learned this brilliant analogy from Pema Chodrun: Think of attachment as a closed fist. Non-attachment is an open palm. Non-attachment allows you to still be deeply connected to other people and the world around you. You aren’t clinging so tightly to everything. When we want so badly to control the outcome of a situation, this can create a lot of anxiety. Non-attachment allows us to trust the beauty of change my loves.