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Who do you prefer? As a Single Lady A man who compliments your beauty but keeps eying other women. A man who focuses only on you but does not compliment you at all. ... As a Single Man An exceptionally cute woman who wants to hang out with you and other men but not to settle down. An average looking woman with a stable career who wants to settle down with you immediately. As a Married Woman A multi-millionaire, compulsive womanizer who buys you everything you need. A saint totally committed to you but watches TV all day long waiting for you to return home after work. As a Married Man An extremely beautiful, sexy and humble woman admired by everybody but you fear she occasionally cheats on you even though you have no solid evidence. A strong-willed, average looking, professional woman who earns more than you and runs her schedules independently even though she’s totally committed to your marriage. Life is full of contrasts and trade-offs. No matter how great anyone may be, they have their weaknesses. Happiness is focusing on your partner’s strengths and working on your weaknesses. Happiness is complimenting your partner’s beauties and intentionally avoiding being a fault-finder. Happiness is clarifying expectations and working on your relationship every day. Dr. K N Jacob

Say NO to Divorce Gentleman, the wiser you get, the greater the realization that it’s senseless to sleep with other women. Your wife is the sweetest piece of creation at your disposal. Proverbs 5:19 - She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.... Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. You can dissolve a contract by mutual consent. A contract is binding so long as you both live. And those are the vows you willingly made on your wedding day. Malachi 2:14 The LORD is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Death automatically frees you from your marriage covenant. Death is the only valid reason for remarriage. We have too many dead living today. 1 Corinthians 7:39 - A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. A mature couple that genuinely loves each other should prioritize forgiveness over dissolution of marriage matters infidelity. Unless one is an arrogant serial cheater, give your partner a second chance and affair proof your marriage. While Jesus stated unequivocally that infidelity is enough grounds for divorce, He emphasized forgiveness. If you divorce, He warned, that’s your right, but do not remarry (Mark 10:11-12). Weigh your options and if you can’t stay single for the rest of your life, work on your marriage. Why do I focus so much on men? If we get family leadership right, we will get our generation right. John Maxwell says, Everything rises and falls on leadership. Most men believe this statement except in marriage where they conveniently apportion blames. Dr. K N Jacob

Winner VS Loser Winner - I’m responsible for my marriage Loser - My wife destroyed our marriage ... Winner - My woman, my choice Loser - That guy was so lucky Winner - I’ll increase my income this year Loser - They pay us very low salary in this company Winner - I’ll be promoted this year Loser - The boss unfairly fired me Winner - I’ve been challenged, I’ll work on my weaknesses Loser - Terrible, biased and theoretical advice right there TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. Never blame anyone/anything for your life. You’ll NEVER improve your life so long as you blame someone else. Every time you blame others, in essence you’re arguing, for your life to be better, someone else has to change. Guess what? You have zero power to change others. But you can improve yourself. That’s the bottom-line of everything I teach. You have never learned anything from me if you have not embraced this singular life-changing truth - Your life, your choice. Your marriage, your choice. Your partner, your choice. Your money, your choice. Your job, your choice. Your level of education, your choice. Your happiness, your choice. Heaven or hell, your choice. Dr. K N Jacob

In one way, the Devil is a gentleman Adam blamed Eve. Eve blamed the Devil. The Devil didn’t blame anyone. By not blaming anyone, the Devil played in the big leagues. The Devil took credit for being blamed. By not defending himself, the enemy gladly took the blame. Every time you blame your wife, the Devil takes credit. Blame games glorify Satan. Since the Devil knows he is already judged, he gets excited when we blame him for our wrong choices. The enemy does not want us... to know that we are endowed with freewill. He wants us to blame him for all our bad choices. He knows if we keep blaming others for our failures, we will continue to fail. When he first saw Eve, Adam’s heart leaped with immeasurable joy and he shouted, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh Genesis 2:23. When the dude messed, he blamed God for the woman you gave me. No longer, my bones, my flesh, my sweetheart, but, the woman. Genesis 3:12 (NLT) The man replied, It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it. But even though Adam blamed God and his wife, God still punished him. God created a perfect woman. The man failed in his leadership. Blame games will never exonerate you from the consequences of your choices. If you follow me on this page, do yourself a favor and at least achieve one goal this year PROMISE YOURSELF NEVER TO BLAME ANYONE/ANYTHING FOR YOUR LIFE. Your success is hidden in taking 100% responsibility for your life. You’re responsible for how much money is in your pocket. Who do you think will give you a million bucks? You’re responsible for your relationships. Who do you think will fix your relationships? If this has not yet sank in your soul, you’re yet to mature. How tragic to be a juvenile trapped in an adult body? Dr. K N Jacob

Make or Break your Marriage Gentleman, can you handle truth? When I share inspirational stuff, almost everybody is in agreement. People like hearing prophecies of how they’ll succeed without taking responsibility for their choices. When I challenge people to work on their lives especially matters money and relationships, majority throw stones at me. That’s the human nature. We hear what we want to hear. Information gets into our brains through the filter of our minds deep-r...ooted on our natural biases. We listen to confirm what we believe. It takes greatness to honorably process advice that contrasts your predispositions. My greatest consolation is that many of Jesus’ contemporaries disagreed with Him otherwise, He wouldn’t have been crucified. The Apostle Paul warned that in the last days people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear - 2 Timothy 4:3. Most people who go through divorce or get married by divorcees are not objective on what they hear about divorce. They easily take any advice on divorce very personally and attack any sound advice. If you’ve tried business and failed, it makes sense to listen to a successful businessman like Warren Buffet. It takes maturity to take responsibility for all your choices. It is illogical to blame the woman you personally chose. When a message challenges you, don’t take it personal. I don’t even know 1% of my followers. If you listen to a speaker to confirm your beliefs, you should just live with what you know. If you listen to advice to justify your actions, you don’t need any counsel. Dr. K N Jacob