Atlanta Tantra Temple

ROMANCE IS ABOUT SLAYING DRAGONS TOGETHER It isn’t about celebration. And it isn’t about making your partner feel special. Making your partner feel special should not be on your to-do list on any day of the year, including Feb. 14th. Romance is a dialectical process. It is about confronting something that needs to be confronted, putting your shoulder into the effort and making something new out of the old. Great romances are filled with great struggles. There is no arriving ...Continue reading

Celebrating my body at every stage of life is what I get to do. For years I’ve stuggled with self worth and associated how I must look to feel beautiful. This is an appreciation post for the body that I have that I get to love at any stage of my life. So I’m celebrating every curve, anything that’s squishy, fluffy.. because it’s lovable. Beauty has no size. So I took this of myself to celebrate me to honor that I’m worthy of self love and a partner who’d wants to love everything that I see in me. I hope this brings joy to someone. You are worth loving. -Alisa Tate

What’s porn causing in our lives?

THE INTEGRATED MASCULINE LOVER This archetype arises only from the integration of a man's feminine. It is the patient, and often confusing, work he has done to delve into the realm of feelings, emotions and sensitivity that allows him to understand the language of woman. ... His own inner feminine supports him in bridging the gap into her world, her heart, her pleasure. Experiencing this polarity flip is part of a man's developmental journey in becoming an integral being. Whether he knows it or not, his soul is preparing him for something much much deeper. The trap, however, is getting stuck here. When a man stays too long in the realm of feelings, the domain of his inner feminine, he starts to embody the wounded little boy. He relates to woman as mother, and not only that - an overly masculine mother. His needs and emotions begin to supersede hers and the relating dries up, becomes heavy and stagnant. Nothing can truly move forward from here. It's only when he takes the next big step, out of identification with his own feminine, and into a bigger container of the masculine, that he can become masterful. His own empowered masculine. He learns to hold his inner feminine with the level of care, devotion and love that he will eventually be able to hold her - the beloved - with. He no longer looks to women to take care of his feelings. Oh at times they may meet him there, we are not so rigid as to say always or never, however the need for her to heal him dissipates and, paradoxically, a deeper healing occurs - when they finally meet. And he becomes the integrated lover. Capable of penetrating her with the most exquisite artistry and poetry. Taking her (if she, as a woman, has done her own work to become integrated) deeper than she ever could have imagined. Suprising even himself with the places they will go. Men, it's time to step into a more full embodiment of the masculine. www.evolutionaryrelating.org/purpose --- The yearning never subsides Even as she approaches Even when she is here Full permission... To want her To need her To ache for her Swollen throbbing in his groin A full heart open to receive More Anticipating the ecstasy of her scent The conscious intoxication she brings A knowing He will play her body, heart and soul Like a harp Her undulating melodies Creating a more beautiful world

MEN: If you have to put effort into getting her to desire you sexually, you're doing it wrong. Drop your guard, get out of your head and *feel* her. ... Slow the f$*k down and notice her responsiveness to you. Notice the subtle ways her body, tone of voice and words are telling you when she's opening and when she's closing and how your behavior may be causing this. Engage her with conversation about what's important and meaningful to you and what's important and meaningful to *her.* Observe what makes her unique and exquisitely desirable and tell her...when she's ready to receive it and not a minute sooner. (Hint: her readiness is directly related to how full of shit you are when you say it. So, don't say it if you don't mean it.) I get that these things may feel like "effort" to you seeing how they are likely unfamiliar territory. But these things don't actually require effort. They require you to let go of efforting and get super curious and humble. They require you to choose to come face-to-face with your fear of her emotional tidal wave that could crush you and send you running and be with that fear without actually running...until you've integrated this process. That's not effort. That's tapping into honor and grace toward the human experience. They require empathy toward her uniquely feminine experience and a willingness to be vulnerably transparent, like a f$*king warrior poet. Her opening to you and desiring you has nothing to do with sex. The sex is secondary. So, if you want to make a shift that helps you here, stop focusing on it. And, if you have trouble getting here, stop pretending you don't need help. We all need to be vulnerable enough to ask for guidance from those who understand things better than we do.

Trauma can often be the gateway to your greatest gifts. It's got this really the cool way of forcing you to really look at certain areas of your life, moreso than most will have to. Which is cool because it gives you a sense of mastery in that domain.... The only reason I understand shadow integation so well is because I had to get good at it in order to survive. Whereas whatever traumas you're healing from will also require a certain level or mastery in some area of your life. People with unsafe family dynamics might get really good at relationship building. People pleasers could get really good at boundaries and so on. Trauma forces us to become specialists, which can be kind of a pain in the ass at times but it's also an incredible blessing. We all have things we've had to deal with, things we've had to conquer. And as a result, we have things we can offer the world. Our suffering isn't for nothing, it delivers and hones our gifts. This is the beauty of a collective of humans all doing their work. We all become resources for each other. There is meaning in your suffering, there is beauty in it as well. Share it with the world, we need it.

THE RESTORATION OF EROTIC INNOCENCE AND THE SHADOW OF SEXUAL LIBERATION. By Vanessa Florence Over the past ten years I’ve been working deeply in the conscious sexuality fields....Continue reading

"My temple is my body. My world around me, my altar. My words are my spells. I am a bearer of light. Whatsoever I set my sight and heart on, I will birth into existence."

I don’t want to be your absolute divine perfection Or that special person you’ve been searching for your entire life. I don’t want to be put on a pedestal Or a projection of your fantasy’s that aren’t sustained in reality.... All I want is for it to feel ‘good enough’ Good enough to lean in Good enough to say yes Good enough to continue to explore I want us to be sober in our relating knowing that we are both human & that it will be messy at times even really fucking hard & uncomfortable. I want us to be real Present Here together Embodied in our love Moment to moment choosing one another bc it feels good for now & that may change Or it may not But not placing any expectations of being ‘the forever one’ Come down with me baby into the body Be here Really here Regulated Grounded Present Here Slow down with me baby Way way down At the pace that allows us to truly see one another It takes time to get to know someone It takes time to see who people really are What turns me on is going slow Not entangling our attachment wounds & confusing them with love Stop trying to audition & perform Stop pretending to be whole & complete Stop trying to be on your best behavior to position yourself in a certain way in my life Which blinds you from truly seeing me. See who I really am See all of my pain All of my shadow All of my messy human. I don’t want it to be perfect I don’t want it to be ideal I want it to be real I want to really know who you are, shadow and all... I want to consciously choose if we think we are a good fit with all of the trauma and imprints that will come with us into our relationship Because they will Whether it’s right away or once the dopamine honeymoon love addiction wears off It will inevitably show up Because that’s what it always does That’s what relationship is So show me who you are from the start. I am not going to meet all of your needs, expectations or desires of what your perfect partner is & I don’t want to. Let go of your fantasy of me being special or the one that’s meant to be with you forever And just be right here Fully present grounded embodied honest sober & real. Choosing moment to moment to say yes Knowing at any moment it could end. This is what lights me up & turns me on This is what let’s me know that it’s real Being so committed & simultaneously aware of the ever changing & shifting nature of life. I don’t want to be your absolute divine perfection I just want to be good enough. -Anaia Sundara

It's not about whether I love you or not. Does the way I love you feel good to you? Does the way I love you help make the difficult parts of life feel easier to navigate? ... Does the way I love you set you free? Does the way I love you facilitate or expedite your healing? Does the way I love you help you grow in a direction that you respect? Does the way I love you inspire your creativity? Does the way I love you create enough space for you to have your own autonomy and plenty of love time with yourself and others? Does the way I love you make you float a little when we're not together? Does the way I love you support you in feeling safe enough to be vulnerable and courageous with me? Does the way I love you feel good even when times are hard? Does the way I love you hold space for you to know you can make mistakes and resolutions? Does the way I love you feel resilient and sustainable? Does the way I love you feed your erotic and sensual desires? Does the way I love you inspire whimsy and tenderness? Does the way I love you help you to imagine y/our future with hope and excitement? Does the way that I love you provide new opportunities and experiences? Does the way I love you leave your friends/loved ones congratulatory and happy for you? Does the way I love allow you to be your full, authentic, and evolving self? Does the way I love you create space for disagreement and healthy conflict? Does the way I love you hold space for the nuance of honesty? Does the way I love leave you feeling loved in the way you want to feel loved? Does the way I love you look like making adjustments when things aren't serving both of us? Does the way I love you honor your dignity, heritage, identity, and self-respect? Does the way that I love you aide you in being in the sort of relationship you want to be in? Vanessa Rochelle Lewis

MEN: She never requires perfection from you. Seeing you take responsibility for where you are at in life, and facing it head on, is what she requires. She needs to witness you in your sobriety, which means seeing you, seeing yourself, and everything which needs to be cleaned up. A womans safety issue is never about what a man sees, but rather what he doesn’t see.

FOR MY SISTERS and the men who’ve too often been the receptacle for our flood of mind-chatter. I have often assaulted my partner with too many words. Expecting them to rise to my level of communication. Assuming I was right. And feeling unloved when they got overwhelmed. Connecting their subsequent shut down with a lack of complexity. I have since come to realize this is another aspect of how we destroy our men. We treat them as if they should be more like women, and then ...Continue reading

EMASCULATED MALES ARE ADDICTED NOT DEVOTED A Man cannot be Devoted unless he puts his Purpose first. His Mission. His Truth. This Masculinizes him. If he puts his woman first instead of his Purpose and is by her side day and night, this Emasculates him. Energetic and physical distance is what creates Polarity. A Man must go off to slay his Dragon. Every day. Most of the day. There can be exceptions, of course. Say she is very sick and needs his attention. He can then make it... his Purpose to take care of her. This keeps him in his Masculine. And it is his Masculine that allows him to be Devoted. Because a woman truly craves the Devotion of a Masculine Man, not the doting attention of an Emasculated Male. Emasculated Males are not capable of Devotion. They're capable of addiction instead, because they're dissociated from their Masculine Core. Typically, they become addicted to the masculine energy of a masculinized woman, because they're dissociated from this masculine energy in themselves. -Mark Binet

"Many men wake up with morning wood, holding themselves, and naturally feel as though they "should" pleasure themselves in this statewithout actually checking in with their body, or energetic arousal. Why waste the erection? is the mindset and many will "rub one out before starting their day. (Often with little (if any) actual turn-on or presence... just a general feeling that "I'm hard, I must be turned on.)... With that disconnection / not actually checking in with their body and what they truly desire, men continue to affirm the belief that their pleasure is to be rushed and disconnectedplus, is only correlated to a hard ock. Brothers, know that your arousal, turn-on and pleasure are not directly linked to your level of hardness/activation in your lingam. Subsequently, your level of hardness is not always a sign of activation/turn-on/true arousal. You can release the belief, If I don't get hard there must be something wrong with me, as well as the belief that, "If I am hard I should do something about it." Instead, use this as an invitation to tune in deeper into your body, become present with the subtle energetics in your lingam and allow pleasure to build from a micro level." -Matthew Ayriss

For the embodied woman, a man is only as attractive as the amount of life-force he has acquired the ability to accumulate, hold, and direct. Electricity is his number one currency - which gifts her, in his arms, an ecstatic death; via his firm frequency of conscious-fuck. Amnesia inducing surrender. ... Deep exhale. Union. www.awakenedintent.com

The promise of a medicine woman If you come to me as a victim I will not support you. But I will have the courage to walk with you through the pain that you are suffering. I will put you in the fire, I will undress you, and I will sit you on the earth. I will bathe you with herbs, I will purge you, and you will vomit the rage and the darkness inside you....Continue reading

Men: Your superpower is not in your balls. Your superpower is in your capacity to direct your sexual energy into your own self-mastery for the sake of something greater than yourself *and* in your capacity to penetrate the world with your unapologeticly, vulnerably open-hearted presence like a f$*king warrior poet. The act of sex and the misguided pursuit of sexual experiences for the sake of trophy sex will temporarily satisfy an impulse to release sexual energy. But, wit...h each release, you give away more of your mastery to women, which will only ultimately leave you depleted of deeply fulfilling purpose. If you're okay with losing your mastery to the act of sex and to women, then by all means, sacrifice your most valuable source of energy. I've no interest in raining on your parade. But, if you want something substantially greater than that for yourself, learn to direct your sexual energy into your own self-mastery for the sake of something much bigger than yourself, like cultivating your masculine presence in lifelong devotion to a woman who complements you and won't let you live anything less than your greatest self. Little is this ever discussed but Napoleon Hill referred to this in his book, Think and Grow Rich, as "sex transmutation." And the Chinese have long referred to this process as a cultivation of your "Jing," or your finite source of internal essence energy. I get that this may be uncomfortable to even talk about and even super challenging for you to master. I know from personal experience that a man's sexual energy is no easy thing to harness. That's exactly why porn and sex addictions are so commonplace. But, in my experience, as a man, there is no reward greater than the mastery of your greatest source of your own vitality and sense of purpose.

WHY DOESN'T SHE WANT ME? Chances are you're an incredibly thoughtful, respectful, kind man. You create heart connection with women because it is simply who you are. And yet a part of you yearns for more regular s*xual connection/attraction. It feels as if women pursue men who treat them poorly or are simply attractive "bad" boys who may be more promiscuous, or at the very least not really available emotionally....Continue reading

PAIN AS A DOORWAY TO PLEASURE You private Tantra session will be mentally stimulating but also emotionally evocative. As your body opens to sacred pleasure, it’s not uncommon for feelings that you’ve forgotten or suppressed to arise. ...Continue reading

SEX IN STILLNESS MEN, you want to listen to this. It will utterly transform your love making. This type of presence and embodiment is what we’ll practice in your private Tantra session.